Team building is also popular in the public sector and not just if a new manager is trying to bond a...The traditional wife is back in vogue – at least in the media.Do women put their marital happiness at risk when they earn a good paycheck? A number of studies published in the past few years have found that while "Stepford" may be good for a few chuckles in a movie, it's far off the mark as far as most men and women are concerned.Education Adds to Allure In fact, if the movie were realistic, the husbands would not be turning their wives into robots.Critics hector Teresa Heinz for not gazing adoringly enough at her husband John Kerry.The New York Times' Maureen Dowd complains, "Her attention rarely seems to light on her husband when she's at a microphone with him."And, of course, there's the much-written-about revival of "The Stepford Wives," in which submissive, robot-like women cater to their husbands' every whim.She found that couples who said they had the most rewarding intimate lives were those in which both partners worked and experienced high rewards from their jobs.If they were in the real world, married couples in Stepford would find they were paying a huge financial penalty for their hubby-earns-most-and-best approach. Despite movies such as the "The First Wives' Club" and the emergence of "displaced homemaker" as a job-seeking category to which a slight sense of desperation adheres, we still tend to think that the traditional homemaker, safely behind her white picket fence, has the most stable marriage. A 1999 nationally representative sample – meaning it mirrors the population as a whole – of 4,405 couples found that divorce was more likely when a woman has no earnings than when she brings home a paycheck.
Psychologist Janet Hyde conducted a yearlong (1996) longitudinal study of 500 couples.Still, the media can't get over their infatuation with traditional women, whether the subject is the wives of presidential candidates, women at work, or the Stepford movie.The only antidote is correct information, which is sadly in short supply. Rosalind Chait Barnett of Brandeis and Caryl Rivers of Boston University are the authors of the forthcoming "Same Difference: How Gender Myths Are Hurting Our Relationships, Our Children and Our Jobs," to be published Aug. Judge Richard Posner, author of a book on the economics of mating, Sex and Reason, suggests, "economics is not divorced from mate selection.People change their behavior as costs and benefits change."J-Date, the popular online national dating service, automatically requests information on women's incomes, because their male clients ask for it.
Mary Balfour, director of Drawing Down the Moon, an executive dating agency based in London, says that college-educated and professional men in their 20s and 30s now want women who match their intellect and earning abilities.