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Below are reports of those discussions.“My disability has more of a chance of being laughed at than any other disability,” David Funes told me over lunch of lobster rolls and sweet tequila cocktails earlier this year.
“If a person is missing a hand or a foot, your mindset is feeling pity toward them. He’s a nightlife personality/dancer who goes by Nano (named after the i Pod, but also because “nano” means dwarf in Greek)—check his Dionysus. That would make me feel objectified and not able to express myself.
“That’s the first time I’d ever be able to dominate someone.
Sometimes I get the urge to top.”Funes knew he was gay his “entire life” but was forced to acknowledge it out loud when he was 16 and his older sister spotted some gay porn on his computer. That was the first and last conversation he had with them regarding his sexuality. “They just never brought it up again.” He remains close to them.
There are more open eyes than minds—eyes that pry, stare, and remind a person of his differences.
“It’s a very low class thing to do, to stare,” said Funes on those eyes.“The first thing I told [my 50-year-old ex] was, ‘We’re going to have a lot of people staring at us, and I want to make sure you’re OK with that,’” said Funes.
She did not let him go outside much until he was in junior high.“There were moments that were sad,” he said of his childhood.
When he walks down the street, he almost always wears headphones.“Most of the time, I’m not even listening to music,” he said. Even if I did have an average-sized son, for him to have a little guy as a father, I know he’d be embarrassed of me one day in his life.
He told me that he started hooking up with guys when he was a senior in high school via Adam4Adam.
He was 19 or 20 when he had his first boyfriend, who was 27. We would spend hours watching TV and I would just be there like a little son, right next to him like that.
But if it’s like, ‘We got that out of the way, you found a little guy,’ and then we start sharing our common interests, that’s more acceptable. He’s not insane.’ It varies.”Funes tends to meet guys on geolocation apps like Grindr. That gives them that sense of confidence to walk up to me and say, ‘Hey, let’s go to bed,’ you know what I mean?
Though he works in nightlife, connecting with an average-sized person (the only type of person Funes has slept with) IRL can be difficult from a logistical standpoint. That’s a really big turn-off.”When Funes describes his use of Grindr—some persistent creeps, some sessions in which he contacts multiple guys only to get back not a word in response—his experience verges on the universal.
It struck me, though, that the situation is probably different for men, specifically gay ones and particularly those who are interested in hooking up.