Men and internet dating
“Maybe they’d talk about how they’re really into anime, manga or ‘Have you seen that scary Japanese or Korean movie?
’ The media interests rather than culture interests made it kind of shallow.” The bias Asian men encounter in dating bleeds into other parts of their lives as well.
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I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year-olds in the ‘burbs, 40-somethings who find your taste in music “refreshing,” addled idiots writing “id fck u,” and a handful of age-appropriate, nice-looking guys who can string some sentences together and like to cook.
A little over a year later, Maltempo married a woman he met on the site.
But dating — online or off — was hardly a smooth experience.
“It makes it seem like there’s a dialogue going on from the very beginning,” he said.
His approach was to emphasize his interests (he and his girlfriend are both big fans of Radiotopia podcasts); and keep his profile short but interesting.
The TV shows “Master of None” and “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend,” for example, stand out for pairing Asian men with white women.
“I know sometimes Asian men are not considered attractive, just because we don’t have many examples of Asian men in the media to be considered attractive,” Maltempo said.
Alan Montecillo logged on to Ok Cupid and started filling out his profile.
He wrote down his height (6 feet), listed his interests (podcasts, basketball, reading) and included photos of himself outdoors.
He needed online dating only to “work once,” he says, and it did.