Psychology younger man dating older women
As rumours of Justin Bieber and Naomi Campbell dating subside, we see what goes into maintaining an ‘older woman-younger man’ relationship.
Earlier this week, photographs of pop star Justin Bieber (20) holding model Naomi Campbell’s (44) hand flooded the Internet. While the British supermodel cleared the air after the incident, the buzz didn’t keep the tabloids from drawing attention to the age difference between the two.
“His view of the world was different from that of the people who are my age,” she says.
On the flipside, Pandya says that women mature much faster than men.
That seems to be a sound directive, given that according to a recent survey commissioned by Nickelodeon UK, “men and women agree men remain ‘immature’ well into their late 30s and early 40s.” Both genders also agree that women mature into proper adults at the age of 32.
“That callowness is often oversold by too many aging Lotharios wanting to emphasize the difference between their own supposed expertise and young men’s clumsiness.” Mmm-hmm. According to Schwyzer, many young women end up with older men who are “deeply unsafe.” For his part, Schwyzer urges older men to mentor younger men instead of taking advantage of the younger women those young men should be dating.
But like all relationships, those involving an older partner also have no rules. Clinical psychologist, Neha Shah says that the woman in such a relationship shouldn’t assume that she is always right just because she is older.
“The man shouldn’t use his being younger as an excuse or justification for mistakes or irresponsible behaviour,” says Shah, adding, “But in most instances that I have seen, men enjoy the company of older women as they find them more relaxed, confident and focused.
“Men tend to want to be with women who can let them be the way they are,” she says. Pandya adds that dating older women has a few advantages.
Young and wise Stock broker Naman Shah (29), for instance, met Manali Ghorpade (38) when he was only 23. “They are not insecure because they are more mature, and that adds to the comfort level,” she says. She was financially stable and sensitive to my needs.
When I was 25, I married a man 12 years older than me.