Role playing examples for teen dating violence
To illustrate this, ask the group the following questions: Q: Why would a victim of abuse agree to remain in an abusive relationship and start the cycle over again?A: The victim may grant forgiveness because maybe they love their abuser, they hope the abuse will never happen again, they fear what the abuser will do if they end the relationship, and they are in denial about the seriousness of the abuse.Conduct a brainstorming session about what questions might arise for a person who is trying to leave an abusive relationship.Record and validate the participants' answers by writing their comments on the board.Some of what the couple talks about may bring on strong emotions.This is natural, but comments should be held until the group discussion.Explain to the group, "There are ten statements hung around the room.Your challenge is to silently go around the room and place a red dot on the statements you think are false and a green dot on the statements you think are true. Explain in your own words that because the issue of violence is very present in many dating relationships, you want the group to be knowledgeable about the subject.
Ask the group what kinds of threats would be used in a marriage.
Confirm or suggest that it is difficult for many people to understand why the victim, in this case a woman, would stay in the violent relationship.
The Cycle of Violence can help them understand a bit more.
" Explain that if someone is abusive before there is an emotional bond, often times the victim will quickly end the relationship.
However, once there are strong feelings like love involved, it becomes much harder to walk away. This is a stressful period for both the abuser and the victim, but there is no violence present.
" Some answers may include: sadness, confusion, anger at the abuser, anger at the victim, helplessness. Ask the group to think back to the questions that were posed before watching the clip.