When to start dating after spouse dies
Direct positive energy towards is a LOT of kinds of "dating." Until you spell out details, my answer will be along the lines that "everyone should start socially interacting instantly with other people after a major event." And, "don't make any deep or long term commitments while under the stress of heavy emotional disruptions of ANY kind."We humans are emotionally frail beings.I planned to wait a YEAR before starting to look for a relationship ...She'd likely eventually regret it, and would also likely hurt a few innocent parties along the way. First, I think the length of the grieving process is proportional to the strength of the relationship the remaining spouse had with their dearly departed, and their own internal emotional strength.If she was my friend, I would be positive and encouraging about steps she'd take to rejoin socializing and getting love and support (and some laughs, they're important too) from family and friends, of either gender, but not so much about her deliberately starting dating activities, just yet. I think your friend is scared silly with the notion of raising 2 young children on her own... I also think, many widows/ers come into the dating world a little early, nearly done with the bulk of the grieving process,.So, I'm not so concerned about redundancy or the basic nature of the question, because at the end of the day someone might be helped by the discussion.It's very true that my friend would give anything just to share a few more moments with her spouse.....one more minute would make her happy.People simply stick their noses where they don't belong .... ) was in full-blown dating mode, I'd say she was flirting with disaster ...not that it would necessarily mean that she hadn't loved her husband, but that such a short amount of time isn't long enough to have dealt with the emotional upheaval of his death.
It was exhausting because if not actively engaged in a project or effort, my mind would snap back to her.
How long should she wait before shedding all the black and in mouring clothing? There is a LOT of kinds of "dating." Until you spell out details, my answer will be along the lines that "everyone should start socially interacting instantly with other people after a major event." And, "don't make any deep or long term commitments while under the stress of heavy emotional disruptions of ANY kind." We humans are emotionally frail beings.
Telling someone else how to go about their healing process, unless they ask, is rude, in my opinion.
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...
While, a friendly dinner with a former friend is innocent enough, your friend may have other intentions-like filling that vast hole in her heart with the first man that comes along. I think it also depends on how your spouse died and what sort of relationship you had. OK, sorry then, but there isn't any rule that makes any sense about how long to wait.